Everything has to be fast
Reply within minutes, jump on a video call, say yes to the crowded bar. A pace you never chose and nobody ever asked you about.
01 — Let’s start at the beginning
What does neurodivergent mean?
Not all brains work the same way. "Neurodivergent" simply describes people whose brain processes information, emotion or sensation differently from the majority.
It is not an illness. It is not a level. It is not something to be fixed. It is a different way of working, with its own strengths and its own difficulties.
Day to day, it can look like this
- The noise of a café tires you faster than it tires other people.
- You need time before replying to a message, even when you like the person.
- You are not always sure what a conversation expects of you.
- You focus intensely on the things that fascinate you.
- An unplanned change costs you far more energy than it costs others.
- You have to perform a character in social settings, and you come home drained.
It covers, among others
- ASDAutism
- ADHDAttention deficit
- GiftednessHigh potential
- DyspraxiaCoordination
- DyslexiaReading, writing
- OtherYour neurodivergence counts too
No diagnosis needed.
Very few neurodivergent adults have ever been diagnosed. Everywhere, adult assessment is slow, expensive, and often simply unavailable. When you sign up you can answer "getting assessed" or "I don’t know yet". If you recognise yourself on this page, you belong here.
KINDYZ for everyone
Who belongs here?
There is no typical profile, and nothing to prove. If a single one of these lines sounds like you, you are in the right place.
- Diagnosed, being assessed, or neither.
- Autistic, ADHD, gifted, dyspraxic, dyslexic, dyscalculic, Tourette’s — or something that does not have a name yet.
- Diagnosed at twelve or at forty-five. It changes nothing about your place here.
- Wherever you live: there is no waiting list by city or by country.
- Whether you are looking for love, for friendship, or simply not to be alone.
One condition, and it is not moving: you have to be 18 or over. KINDYZ is a space for adults.
02 — Why we built this
Existing apps were not built for us.
You explain yourself every time
Every new conversation, you re-explain why you reply late, why you prefer writing, why that place is too loud. And hope it lands well.
So you play a part
You mask, you adapt, you hold on. Then you come home empty — and the relationship was built on someone you are not anyway.
Common questions
Do I need a diagnosis to sign up?
No. You can answer "getting assessed" or "I don’t know yet". Plenty of adults have never had access to an assessment — waiting lists, cost, or simply nobody to ask — and that is no reason to be left outside.
Is this a dating app?
Not only. You choose what you are looking for — a relationship, friendship, community, or simply outings. Your choice is shown on your profile.
Does KINDYZ exist where I live?
The access list is open everywhere, and there is no threshold and no waiting list by city or by country. The app is in French, English and Arabic. The first outings will start wherever there are enough members.
Is it free?
Yes. The essentials are free forever: meeting people, writing, setting your limits, having a Guardian. KINDYZ+ is a comfort tier, and joining the access list gives you a free month of it. And safety will never be paid for: the Guardian, reporting, blocking and your communication limits stay free.
None of the boxes describe me. What do I do?
You pick “other neurodivergence” or “I don’t know yet”. The boxes exist to find you people who work like you, not to file you away — and none of them commit you to anything. You can change yours later from your profile.
Is KINDYZ only for autistic people?
No. Autism, ADHD, giftedness, dyspraxia, dyslexia, dyscalculia, Tourette’s, and people being assessed or with no diagnosis at all: everyone belongs here. What is shared is not a diagnosis, it is having to explain yourself constantly.
I was diagnosed late, as an adult. Is that common?
Very. Many adults discover their neurodivergence after thirty or forty, often while reading their own child’s assessment. A late diagnosis is not a doubtful one, and on KINDYZ it changes nothing about your place here.
Do I have to show my neurotype on my profile?
No. You can record it to improve your suggestions without making it visible to other members. It is sensitive data: it is only stored with your explicit consent, and you can withdraw that consent at any time — at which point it is erased.